“In time, dear, your wound will heal
And you’ll observe changes in how you feel
Your suffering will lessen a great deal“
Words said to comfort but so unreal
Words that bring tears to a mother’s eyes
She is hurt but they don’t realize
What the loss of a child does even to the wise
A part of her is gone when a child dies.
Bereaved mothers are unique in their grief
Their bereavement is for life, not short and brief
Lamenting a child is endless, without any relief
Believe me, they aren’t in denial or disbelief
Accept their sorrow and endless pain
Their ultimate loss is of no return
Thank God they survived it and are still sane
Allow them to grieve without any restraint
Acknowledge that a mother’s heart will never heal
Understand what she goes through and feel
Try to be less demanding of her is my appeal
And don’t ask her to bury her sorrow and conceal
Randah R. Hamadeh, 2009, Copyright©
Written in loving memory of my daughter
Samar Ahmed Al Ansari
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2 comments:
Dear Randah-Um Samar
Its so true what you say in your poem- the pain does not cease but we bereaved parents get used to carrying with us during our daily life.
We change- yes we change. We change to the better for someone who can endure the pain of losing
a child cannot survive without reassessing Life and Death, humanity, mortality ,God and the spirit world.
Our children who have gone before us stay are part of us and we carry them in our hearts until the end of time.
Najwa- Haas'mom
I wish i was good with words like you are so i can express what i felt when i read what you wrote, but i am not.
your heart will never heal and the pain will never go away but you will become stronger everyday
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